The Devil has been working overtime in the Rioux household over the past few months. We have become overextended, overtired, and instead of working together to thrive we have been operating in pure survival mode. What happened this morning with our missing baby goat is just another illustration of the place I feel like we have been in as a family. When we couldn’t find Penny we panicked. We bickered with each other about what might have happened as we ran all over the property searching. I know it sounds crazy but I kept hearing a small voice inside of me that said to be still. As a hundred bible verses ran through my head, I went and sat in the barn and prayed a very heartfelt prayer that God would intervene in this seemingly insignificant situation. It was at that point that I had the clarity to notice something I had missed before. Mama goats always cry for their babies when they are gone and this Mama goat was not crying. I prayed again that God would help me find this missing kid and it was after that prayer that I heard a very faint cry that sounded like it was coming from behind a barn wall. I stayed quiet and listened until I could figure out that the sound was coming from a wall that had some space between the boards. Sure enough, there Penny was completely hidden yet stuck between the boards and unable to get herself out. If I hadn’t listened to that small voice this morning, we would not have found her in time…..There is a lot of noise in our lives today that the Devil is working hard to create. God wants us to slow down and take time for him so that we can hear what he has to say…. Just like that goat, we can all get in that place where it feels like a wall is separating us from God. Yet he heard my weak cry and he answered my prayer because I was finally listening. And if God can intervene in a situation that may seem as insignificant as this, he can intervene on your behalf too!
This year marks the only year the girls will be in school together as well as the only year that Chris will have 2 dates to the Daddy Daughter Dance. In honor of this special occasion the girls and I decided to do a fun 1950’s styled photo shoot in their dresses for the dance. Over the summer I purchased a very cool vintage hair dryer that I’ve been itching to use, and this proved to be the perfect occasion as I photographed the girls getting ready.
In order to make this shoot happen I needed a blank wall with a lot of light facing it. The best we could do was to utilize the mud room area of our basement where I could open french doors and shoot the girls indoors while I was outside in the frigid February weather. I’m pretty sure this was a pretty humorous sight for those who drove by and witnessed it! Other than that it was easy peasy and I was tickled to see that it showed off the relationship the girls have not only with each other but with their Dad as as he stood off to the side and made them giggle throughout. I can’t believe how fast these girls are growing up! When uploading these photos I realized how much Maizy looks like a teenager and how Lyric is losing her babyish looks. It’s a good reminder to hold onto these moments tightly, as time is flying by!
When I asked my almost 6 year old what kind of birthday celebration she would like to have this year she decided to combine two of her favorite things and have a simple Hounds and Hot Chocolate party with her girlfriends. The hot chocolate part she comes by honestly because the ladies in my family are pretty big sweet lovers but the hounds part was inspired by our recent basset hound adoptee named Ryman. Ryman is pretty much the cutest puppy you’ve ever seen and we love him dearly despite the fact that he’s still not potty trained at almost 5 months and he’s perpetually stinky. I think that’s a basset thing…..
Party planning for this one was very easy as we just hit the Target dollar spot after Christmas for most of our supplies. Gingerbread houses became dog houses and dog bone ornaments became doggie name tags. We filled portion cups with cereal to represent puppy food and found basset hound stuffed animals on Ebay. The girls decorated their dog houses with markers and then made dog collars for their hounds using letter beads and pipe cleaners. My husband Chris is a screen printer and made Lyric the cutest birthday design using a picture of our new puppy. We screen printed it on T-shirts and canvas bags for the party goers to take home. We also utilized our “Pioneer Woman” Charlie cookie jars and donned them in festive party hats.
The girls seemed to enjoy the hot chocolate bar that was set up with different types of marshmallows, peppermint sticks, and whipped toppings. The food was as simple as serving snack mix and veggies in doggie bowls and making cupcakes that looked like hot chocolate. Sweet G’s in Nolensville, TN also made the cutest little basset hound and hot chocolate cookies that the girls were able to take home. All in all it was a very simple and inexpensive party. I especially enjoyed Lyric’s involvement as she helped in every stage of the planning and decorating. One of the things I love so much about that kid is that she would have been content with anything we did for her birthday but she is a crafter at heart and enjoyed stretching her creative muscles. The week before her birthday I gave her a glue stick and she totally thought it was her birthday present and was happy with it. She can see a lot of potential in something as simple as a glue stick and I love that about her 🙂 Happy 6th Birthday Lyric!
Loss has been a part of my life for as long as I can remember. Growing up as a preacher’s kid in a small town you spend many of your days at the hospital and funeral home. Add to that the fact that one of my best friend’s was the funeral director’s daughter and that I later chose the profession of counseling and I guess you could say that sadly I sometimes feel too well versed in all of the hardships that people go through in this life. When you spend your days working with precious families that are going through huge, horrible things, it can feel wrong to be upset about the smaller ones. But the thing about loss is that it is all relative to the person’s perspective who is going through it. People grieve in such different degrees and ways, especially kids.
I have a little nurturer who is a lover of all things living. She’s actually a lot like me. Living on a farm where death and loss are commonplace can be very hard on a sensitive heart like that. Today, my sweet husband set out to mow after he had checked to make sure that the kittens were not hanging around the mower. Unfortunately when he started moving the sudden noise startled Lyric’s last little kitten who was hiding in the barn and caused it to dart out in front of him. He tried with all his might to change the course of what would happen next, but little Poppy passed away anyway. He was distraught….. We had given all but two kittens away this week and had the Momma cat fixed. The two remaining kittens were Kai’s cat Scotch, and Lyric’s little Poppy. Lyric had also lost her spring kitten to a rain storm so we were all hoping things would turn out differently this time. Sadly, they didn’t.
The conversation we had with her was hard. It reminded me so much of the time my Dad met me at the bus stop and told me that my childhood rabbit had died. I was so sad but I think his burden to bear was greater. Normally my guidelines for helping kids through grief are to give them as much truth as they can handle, validate their feelings, stay away from “cliche” statements that might be hurtful, give them a safe place to talk, and point them towards some healthy outlets for their grief. Although I did tell my oldest the truth about what happened, I knew that my youngest two could not handle the full story. So I did what I’ve never done before and I lied. I told them that she ran away and wouldn’t be back. I’m a truth teller in life but I just couldn’t see how telling this truth would be helpful in any way. Irregardless we are now dealing with the loss of yet another farm animal and I know there will be many more down the line. This is a life we have chosen and I truly believe it’s important for kids to experience these little losses and setbacks so they can be more prepared for the big ones life has in store. Still that doesn’t make it easy when you have a 5 year old that races home every day to snuggle her kitten.
It was tempting when the friend texted who had adopted Poppy’s mini me and offered her back, but it would have been the wrong choice. So tonight we grieve……And we hold onto Kai’s tabby kitten a little tighter(or a lot tighter in Lyric’s case…..Not sure Scotchie is enjoying her kitten cuddling program). There will be a day in my children’s future where life hits them in the face with big time loss. I’m just hoping that these smaller life experiences will give them some much needed perspective when that time comes.
Well, it’s official……. My baby is going to Kindergarten. Now don’t think for a second that I am one of those overly sentimental types that keeps every memento and weeps over every milestone. In fact, I’m not sure I ever got even a little misty eyed when my first two went to school. I think I may have even celebrated a little when my overly energetic middle child(who earned the name Dennis the menace early on) traipsed off for his first day of Kindergarten. During that period I was a Momma in the trenches. I was too overwhelmed to feel anything but relief about my eldest children heading out to a more structured and stimulating environment that was not a Mommy run DayCare.
I say all that to say that sending my third and last little one off to school feels a bit different. She’s our baby. The surprise sweetie that has been doted on by her Mom, Dad, and siblings. It’s not that I love her more than the others, because that is not the case at all. But instead she holds a special place in our family because she’s the last. Sending her to kindergarten feels like the end of something. The end of diaper days and sippy cups…..and the end of problems that are easily solved with a band-aid or a hug. We are closing a chapter in our family and I can’t help but feel a little bit of sadness that those days are completely behind us. Sure it was exhausting at the time in a very physical way. But what I have observed is that the challenges of parenting become more emotionally and mentally tiring as children hit the school age years. Suddenly their problems become bigger and harder to fix and at times we parents have to just sit back and watch them grow through painful experiences while we wait on the sidelines.
When they were still little my husband and I used to say that the days would drag on but the years seemed to fly by. When they enter the school age years what I’ve noticed is that both the days and years seem to fly by in warp time. Some days feel like a race to get everything done before we have to wake up and do it all over again. It’s harder to just slow down and sit in a moment… So on Thursday when I send my spunky, smart, hard working, last little sweetie to Kindergarten, there may be some tears shed. As a family we will be turning the page on a chapter in our life that held some pretty special memories. I’m hoping to make some new extra special memories in this next chapter too as this is the only year in our family history that all three kids and I will all be at the same school. Can you imagine my commute to work?! We may be saying goodbye to some major milestones but the cool thing is that we are also saying hello to the exciting new adventures that are ahead of us!
I’ve been wanting to do a retro inspired bathing beauties shoot for years and finally made it happen this week! As I have watched our summer dwindle down to it’s last days, I decided to throw some things together to make this shoot come into fruition. Janie and Jack is my go to place for girls swimwear as they have the cutest vintage inspired suits along with bathing caps so that was my first stop. Seriously! How cute are little girls in bathing caps?! After that I picked up some yard flamingos and a huge float off of Amazon. The finishing touch was a quick scrappy garland I made out of cut up fabrics I had on hand. Most of the fabric is from the mesh bags that Matilda Jane ships it’s clothing in. I find that those baggies come in handy for packing/traveling as well. I digress…… The goal for this shoot was that it would look vintage inspired and use a creamy color palette with soft greens, white, pinks, and yellow. You never know exactly how things will transfer from inside your head to reality but I was pleased with the results and I think the girls had a good time too! Next summer I would love to recreate this scene for a mini shoot as it was fun and easy. Here are some of my favorites!
If you are anything like me and are a Momma to kids of elementary school age, summer can become somewhat of a mixed blessing. The first week after school closes you are probably saying “Halleluja” and “Good Riddance” to rigid schedules, homework check ups, and generally running around like a chicken with your head cut off trying to check all the boxes you are supposed to check. As the days turns into weeks this feeling of relief will fade as your kids start whining and bickering while you grasp at straws trying to figure out how to keep them entertained all summer long.
At that point you either become the “Over Scheduling Momma” who fills up the weeks with various camps and activities trying to keep the peace, or you have to figure out how to strike a balance between relaxation and a schedule where people don’t kill each other. I have been the parent who has over scheduled to the point that it didn’t feel like the kids/myself had any down time before starting another rigorous school year. That was the summer of VBS….. The one where we went to every local vacation bible school to the point where we could have taught the classes. It seemed that every church within a 45 minute radius decided on the same theme that year and I still can’t get the catchy song “Journey off the map” out of my head. Believe me I have tried. I digress…….
In an effort to strike a better balance we now only do two camps per child per summer and try to plan other activities that allow them some engaging down time. In planning activities the goal is always to have them be technology free, creative, and for the most part independent from me. This is not because I don’t love my children and don’t enjoy their company but it’s because I don’t believe it’s my sole purpose in life to entertain them. They are going to learn to use their imaginations even if it’s against their will! What’s the point in having multiple kids if they can’t at least help entertain each other?!
So if you are already hitting that part of the summer where you are pulling your hair out, your house is trashed, and you can’t think of what else to do with these little people you used to think fondly upon as your children, here is a list of things that seem to work for our family.
Disclaimer: We are a quirky family and my kids may or may not be on the weird side so execute these ideas with caution. My husband did just make a gold mining sluice so we could pan for gold at whimsy so there is that…..
- The Lego Challenge: Give the kids a set time limit and challenge them to make an invention. All my kids have their own Lego sets and are competitive by nature so this one usually takes about half the day. That’s half a day that you can do laundry, clean, or sip a cup of coffee and read a book!
- The Nature Scavenger Hunt: Send your kids out with a baggie and a list to find items found in nature. If you live in a rural area you have an advantage on this one but before we lived on a farm we also used to do it in our neighborhood park. For little ones that can’t read I’ve used clip art or put them on a team with their older sibling.
- The Play Doh Contest: My kids can spend endless hours making Play Doh dresses for Polly Pockets, furniture for animals, or my favorite, trying to replicate Shopkins. The other variation we do often is to use Kinetic sand and bury small items in it or mold them into waves for surfing Polly Pockets.
- Make a video: My kids also spend a lot of time making “How To” videos as well as stop motion animation videos using their figures and things around the house. We often view them with a bucket of popcorn when they are finished.
- The Voice: This one works really well if you have swivel chairs in your house! Have your kids take turns debuting their talent and kindly judging others as you act out your own rendition of The Voice. This one brings a lot of laughter into the home as my kids also like to come up with fake names/personas and sing in the voice of their own quirky character. Another spin on this is to have a dance contest.
- Water Day: There are so ways to do this one but I say use what you have. Slip N Slides, diving for gems in blow up pool, water balloons, sprinklers, you name it! When it is hot yet you don’t want to have to put your swimsuit on at the public pool these things will buy you a couple of hours!
- Art Camp: One thing I’ve learned over the years is that if I make up a bogus contest my kids will buy into it every time hook, line, and sinker. This means that I can turn any art activity into a contest. Coloring, painting, crafting, you name it! Buy in is important if you want little ones to do something for a long time. That is why you have to get them excited about it. Maybe open an art exhibit where they hang pictures they have created all over the basement with painters tape. My kids also don’t seem to notice that I basically find a way to give them each a praise/win over the course of the activity.
- Hide and Go Seek: Another favorite is to have a person hide something like a sock monkey and then take turns finding it. I usually start this game when I need a good 30 minutes to finish something I’m working on. Simply grab the the item closest to you and say, “Hey! hide this thing and see if your brother and sister can find it”! Remember, if you sell it well, they will buy it!
- Cooking Contest: Obviously you have to have an older responsible child monitor this one if you are going to use the stove but it can also be done with younger kids by giving them proper boundaries. My oldest daughter watches a lot of cooking shows like “Chopped” so we like to have cooking contests and then throw in a weird ingredient to see how they can fit that in.
- Summer Theater: Have your kids put on a mini play where they write the script, dress the part, and perform it for the family.
- The Lemonade Stand: This one has been tricky since we moved out to the farm but we still figure out ways to work it in. The lemonade/sweets stand is a good way to teach your kids about entrepreneurship. They have to make the goods, use marketing, sell the product, count the cash, and then decide how they will spend/save it.
- Reading Time: Every day at a certain hour require some down time where your little ones have to snuggle up with a book. You can read my previous blog for book ideas!
- The Doll/Stuffed Animal Cafe: My girls love to create an American Girl cafe and use items from the house to make seating/decor as well as create food using clay. This could also work with stuffed animals for boys.
- Summer Olympics: This one is on Maizy’s list for the summer. The basic idea is to create a fun outdoor event and compete in different areas like hula hooping, bike races, etc.
- Camp Out: Borrow a tent, make some smore’s, and sleep out under the stars with the kids. We tried this one recently with a bunch of families on our farm. We ended up having a horrible storm that night so only a few stayed all night but I haven’t abandoned the idea for next year.
- Learn Something New With Your Kids: This is one that is always on the list at our house as living on a farm seems like an endless opportunity for learning new things. From taking care of animals to planting a garden and canning, there is always something that can be shared and passed on to your children.
- Tournament Time: I wouldn’t describe the Rioux family as an overly athletic one but we do like to have Bocce ball tournaments in the summer and have added other sports like kickball and softball as Kai’s interests have headed in that area in particular. We will often invite other family and friends over to make it more fun.
- Field Trips: This one probably goes without saying as many people take field trips to the zoo, library, etc……but try to think outside of the box and expand your world view a little bit. Maybe hit a museum, national park, exotic pet store. Follow your children interests and see where it takes you. I know that my girls in particular have a love for antiques like I do so we will visit a quaint little town an hour away called Bell Buckle that has been preserved in time and has many antique stores. We’ll shop all day long and then eat in the cafe ending our journey by buying dessert from the local Malt Shop.
- The Goodwill Hunt: I’m a lover of Goodwill as you never know what you will find there. Since my kids share my love we will often search there for treasure together. You can often find Maizy searching for vintage dishes, Lyric looking for forgotten Lalaloopsies, and Kai digging through the junk bin for Lego mini figures or Pokemon cards. We often find family games, puzzles, or projects there that we can later do together which then results in a family activity that we can engage in that evening. That’s a two for one special!
- The Kindness Game: Teaching kids to do things unselfishly for others is a good thing any time of year. Maybe visit an elderly neighbor who loves kids, deliver dinner to a family that is struggling in some way, or make a care package for the homeless man that sits at Kroger. Try to get your kids thinking about ways to serve others.
These are just a few ideas that will hopefully help you survive the long, hot days of summer! I also should probably mention that my kids do have chores to do over the summer months and that we try to get those things out of the way before we play. When I’ve exhausted my list and the bickering starts, I usually invite friends to come over for an activity. On the farm we often have “Popsicles on the Porch” days where friends come over to play for a few hours, pet some animals, and eat some popsicles before they go home. And who knows? During the last weeks of summer when the going gets tough, I may even sign them up for another round of VBS! I hear the theme is Submerged this year 😉
It’s our first kidding season here on the farm and just like any expectant parents, we’ve approached it with excitement and some trepidation. Months ago our vet came out and performed an ultrasound on our two female goats. At that time the Vet said it should be a couple of weeks so we read the literature and watched over those goats like we were their security! Every day, we’d check for any signs that would prove that this would be the day! While I was at work I would even have my awesome husband text me “goat hiney” pics just so I could see if they were dilating. Of course he was concerned that at some point he’d have to explain all of the goat butt pics on his phone but I lovingly reassured him that I would take the fall if it ever came to that…..
As the weeks passed and turned into months, we sort of gave up hope that they would ever come. Our vigilance waned and we decided that Vet medicine was a lot of guesswork with so many species to be knowledgeable about. Of course the moment we quit watching over the goats like hawks was the very moment something would happen! The first goat delivery we missed completely as we picked our kiddos up at the bus stop and then went out to the pasture to do the chores. Voila! A precious baby goat stood in the goat stall by her Mom looking like she’d been there all along! There was a blundered gender reveal/the hubs may not be the best with goat anatomy….But this kid that was first named Larry and later Lacey was adorable and strong and took to life at our little homestead quickly. There were tea parties, goat cookies, dress up, a visit to the local elementary school, and lots of goat singalongs….
When our second goat delivered it was the coldest night we were up against all winter. We had just put our two younger children to bed and headed back out to the pasture with our oldest child because we had watched Daisy laboring hours earlier. By the time we got there, there was one very vocal baby goat bleating and moving by Momma Goat and then much to our dismay a completely still/quiet newborn goat that looked like he had been discarded in the corner of the stall. Maizy immediately started toweling him off and trying to work some life in him. After about 45 minutes we heard a weak cry from our weakling and it was about that time that we got a big surprise in the form of another set of hooves making an appearance as they exited our sweet Daisy. Now we had heard that it was rare for a goat to have twins during her first kidding but we hadn’t even heard that there was a possibility of triplets! The other shocker was that they were all boys!(I checked this time) Not the gender we had hoped for but still a blessing to finally see these guys. Two active, tan and white bucks that closely resembled their mother. And one pitiful, little, pure black buck that would barely lift his head. We then got on the phone to ring all of our goat people for their best advice and sprung into action! We blow dried the babies and then my poor husband had to move the (200 pound)Mom while Maizy and I moved the baby bucks to our other building for a better chance of survival. They would still only have a little space heater to keep them warm but it was the best we could do without bringing the whole lot of them in the house.
The next day we were all relieved to see that they had survived one of the coldest nights all year but still our wimpy kid, Coal, wasn’t looking so hot especially when you compared him to his more aggressive young brothers named Bert and Ernie. We took the wimpy, little guy indoors and tried for hours to bottle feed him with no success. Maizy held him all that morning rubbing milk on her fingertips just trying to get him to eat something. When we started to lose hope for him is when a friend suggested letting Momma Goat have another go of it. We took him back to the building and of course he would suddenly look alive when seeing her again as he shakily walked right over to her to start nursing!
So, as it stands today we still aren’t out of the woods yet(cue the Taylor Swift music), but we have made some progress! And I’ll take that over having to give bad news to our children any day! We are learning that just like with parenthood of the human variety, the fears and worries don’t cease when they are out of the womb when they are of the goat variety either. Oh! and I know that most people find it odd that the Rioux clan gets so sentimental about goats, and pigs, etc…… But the truth is that when you live like this and care for farm animals with your kiddos…you get invested in the outcome because life is precious and all of God’s creation seems like a miracle! Here are some baby goat pics!
This holiday photography season was the busiest I’ve ever experienced as I started out saying that I was only going to do a day’s worth of mini shoots and ended up shooting every weekend for 2 months straight! I had trouble saying no especially since I could shoot so easily at the farm this year. At the time I thought I might not survive it but looking back despite some weather hurdles, one naked toddler incident(my own), and one broken finger/donkey accident, it was a lot of fun. It’s always a joy to connect with families and see how much everyone has changed and grown over the year. There were babies in spades which Maizy in particular loved. My kiddos also loved serving everyone milk and cookies when the photo shoots wrapped up. I’d say the only exception to this is when after a long day without available parents, a screaming Lyric ran out to where I was shooting in only her muck boots! The only other incident we had was when I was taking some shots of some teens with our animals in the pasture and the horse and donkey got into scuffle over grain. Burpy our donkey tried to get out of the way of Snickers and barreled into my finger which resulted in a broken pinkie… You know what they say about working with kids and animals! Overall though, it was great recording some sweet memories for some precious families. Unfortunately, I didn’t keep the first two days worth of pics on my computer to save room for more and then I had a word press issue uploading some, but here are a few of my remaining favorites! Thanks so much to everyone who came out and let me take their Christmas photos!
I recently shot some fall and winter photos for Wildly Company. They are a new company that produce ethically made kid’s clothing. What is ethically made clothing you may ask? Well, I’ll tell you! It’s clothing that promotes fair labor practices while creating sustainable jobs for families. The clothing is cute, simple, and comfy. You can check them out at willdlyco.com! Wildly is also partnering with Jonas Paul Eyewear which you can see Lyric sporting in a couple of pics. You know how this family loves their glasses! This child focused glasses company reminds me a lot of Warby Parker which sends frames straight to your door to try out. I love how simple that is. You can find them at jonaspauleyewear.com.